Ancient Abdominal Massage “-If the technique does what it claims, gynecologists, surgeons and producers of synthetic female hormones may need to find other means of employment!” -Mary Kroeger, CNM
FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILD
I want to share some things that are actually near and dear to my heart. Nutrition has given me the ability to be active in the world. At one point a doctor said I wasn’t absorbing my food.That doctor was not on my insurance so I couldn’t see him all but once. I wasn’t working because I was having seizures all over town, for years. This explained why I passed out from just a second of lack of eating. Paying attention to what I am eating and how I am transforming my relationship with my body and engaging in my own healthcare, has put me in a position of power. I am empowered to know I have a say in how I feel and not just the mercy of western medicine’s habit of giving pills and not much else. Sugar knocks me out cold the next day. I stay away as much as possible.
I met Niti at a business event. In her book she speaks of her own mistakes that lead to an allergy that would not go away and gaining in ferocity. No pill or surgery was working. She decided to change her lifestyle around food, and everything changed. She then realized how broken the system is. And that health issues that used to only affect the older generation was being transferred to kids. The school system that her taxes were paying for food with no nutritional value being given to underserved families, does not sit well with Niti. She is dedicating her passion to change these inexcusable practices, which are making children sick with very real repercussions.
One thing she found in her search for nutritional importance is when baby is in utero. She found that women who are not getting enough iron will produce babies with sub optimal brain health. She was so upset when she realized no OB-GYN’s are telling their patients this!
I recently was speaking to an elementary school teacher that was telling me about a teacher she knew that had implemented a practice she wanted to start at her school. It is something they are referring to as a protein time out. When a child was having a hard time keeping behaving well that would give them a protein snack. Behavior issues dropped by about 85%.
Things like Granola has as much sugar as donuts. This is the culture we have bought into. Feeding families is a full time job in many ways. After reading Nitikul’s book I felt inspired to create a different context about my eating. She is not implementing a diet, she is encouraging another way to see food as a way to be well.
Nitikul Solomon just moved to Portland from Salem, OR, where she has dedicated her pediatric practice to changing the way parents and children think about food, and practical ways of changing habits. She is practicing her philosophy with families she serves in her pediatric clinic with explosive results.
I loved the practical application way she presents way to really make a difference in your health.
Build Your Nest
Postpartum Planning Workbook
So happy to know Kestrel Gates who is the author of Build Your Nest Workbook. This is a comprehensive look at all the different ways you can plan what your postpartum time will look like. Which is so great because it brings a sense of empowerment into the picture.
So many things are covered and accounted for. A very clear layout of what to be aware of during the post-natal period. A guide for the practical applications of having clear boundaries with people that could ultimately lead to a very messy time. Life is already messy after giving birth!
This book lays out ways for getting support systems accounted for. Once these are at the ready, it will provide a thoughtful and nurturing transition into motherhood.
The other part of this workbook I love it looking deeply at who you want around and when and for how often… Kestrel lays out a scripted way to consider advantages of certain company and who would just not be advantageous
I have witnessed a few women that are caught in a horrible place of waiting to feel worthy of in-laws, or being decimated by the pressure of breastfeeding.
Dealing with Interfering Grandparents - “But if that grandparent has trouble adhering to basic boundaries, it can feel as if the chaos has maddeningly multiplied.” -Carla Bruce-Eddings
I lived 3,000 miles away from my family. My mother only came for maybe just a week early on. Our styles were pretty different. I breastfed Maya to sleep, co-slept and carried her around in the sling. Constantly. (also she wouldn’t let me put her down).
I remember so clearly her tip was to put Maya on the bed and then leave the room only to sneak and peak around the doorway, waiting for her to cry herself to sleep.
I don’t know how I would have navigated her 'advice’ on a continuous basis. I wouldn’t have thought of that impending interaction with her or anyone. (luckily I lived in the middle of nowhere) To think women would be able to digest that awareness before being in the possible overwhelm of new motherhood?!? Such a great way to have the structure in place, to prevent any impending doom.
This is a great podcast for discovering how many conversations are being held, with resilience, about motherhood.
Amy Westervelt recommends books that want to redefine perceptions of motherhood. Reclaiming our independence and empowerment and leading to understanding and collaboration. We can support each other in the varying degrees of motherhood we are presented with in our lives. We are have our stories which only we can tell. These can be such powerful teachers.
“As a parent, I know how hard it is to find storytelling about being a parent that doesn’t suck. That treats the person on the other end—conceivably a person with a kid—as not a stupid idiot that just wants simple, dumb, wrong advice.
This is a podcast that avoids all those traps, and tells stories that are complicated and interesting and moving.”
—Jad Abumrad, Radiolab
My spiritual birth.
This is really vulnerable for me. I am not used to presenting myself as a spiritual person. I am though. I do believe in God. There are such great examples in my life that where I was protected. I sometimes need to help my belief when times may be low, and I think of my Grandmother and can feel love again. I feel connected to something bigger than me. I have time in a few twelve steps. So higher power is something I can rely on. I know that non-physical matter is light. When I resonate with a certain attunement that makes me feel so much more in love and gratitude, I choose it, for myself and for others.
I guess I had a spiritual birth. It has such a vivid story
I felt so connected to the sea and the earth, it was a feminine wonderland. Rivers, trees giving fruit and so much more.
I was reading Spiritual Midwifery, in a town of Co-op’s and herb stores for health. I took a herb mixture for pre-natal vitamins. When I broke out in hives, and my midwives were nervous that I may be allergic to my pregnancy, I went to the herb shop and found in a book. It was because of Quinine. I had been downing Tonic Water for the last five days. My first introduction to Stevia, as a plant. Humboldt County where everyone is magic. Really.
I was of course reading Spiritual Midwifery, and another book by a woman who had an ecstatic birth. She was all by herself in her bathtub feeling orgasmic. No lie. At one point I heard she was a ‘Breatharian’ living on Hawaii’s Big Island. There are many things that those books opened my mind to. That women have choice about the way they want to give birth. At home, in water, with what women to guide you into confidence…One thing I loved about Ina May Gaskin is that she gave the women whatever they needed when in labor. Whatever was going to bring the baby out alive. So the judgement was not available. The tactics worked every time. Every time.
This is a country where food is not allowed when in labor at a hospital. If a epidural is given, you lose your rights to your legs. No food after six hours. I don’t get the reason actually, something to do with feces. Sugar product and water in styrofoam a must. A cold environment, waiting for the worst scenario with a taste of fear.
Endorphins come if you feel sensual. Kate Dimphfl speaks about Oxycotin, which is what is produced when you are sexually aroused and giving birth. Adrenaline stops labor. The Limbic system needs to take over, canceling any silly rational thought that may get in the way.
If you are private it works better. Lights loud, cold with beeping sounds and people not talking to you, just wondering if you need anything and then rushing off.
My birth was at a home. It wasn’t mine because I wanted to be over the mountain (closer to the hospital just in case).
She came out in warm water. I felt so connected to the planet and all the women on it. I felt like sisters. I only wanted us all to succeed.
That changed the way I connected to something much bigger than I with a whole lot of heart. Because what just came out was all purity.
This birth journey took a damaged catholic atheist that changed her ways on the beach in Trinidad, California. When I told my Humbolt birth sister, she just smiled and look at me like I was a teenager.
“I noticed that words can help, a safe enough atmosphere”
“Oxytocin can thrive with a feeling of security”
Listening to the women who would normally be unseen is such a gift, to me and to all with the pleasure of hearing these wise women.
I had a powerful birth experience that still moves me to this day. Being pregnant took me on a life that was not expected. Giving birth with a twenty year veteran midwife in Northern California, a complicated birth specialized midwife from Denmark and a sweet intern.
Because I was so out of my element being from Massachusetts, and no history with herbal medicine or anything organic I was very aware of all that was happening to me. Because of my vulnerability, I was start enough to be receptive.
I will always have the power of having this support system and what was given to me during a intense life changing process. A vortex of information I learned about myself, the intricacy of life itself, and the generosity of the feminine.
I love listening to other women’s stories and how their birth changes their lives, forever. Birth has such potential for growth if you are paying attention. No matter if it is amazing or has some tragedy, grace can be felt.